long distance relationships.....

       How legit are long distance relationships? There's a lot of different kinds and all different types of people are forced to be in relationships that are long distance. There's the "we met while being far apart and we're still away from eachother" long distance relationship....then there's the "we were together before the distance..." relationship... Either way being away from someone you care for, has to be a challenge. So the question is, is it worth it? Can you make it work? What does it take to have a successful long distance relationship? There's up and downs to EVERY relationship, but we are gonna focus on ones that are miles away and still somehow find a way to make it work. Or the ones that need help to make it work. And even the ones thinking about making it work. Cus lord knows, you can't help who you love..

      First and foremost the emotions, the feelings have to be legit...Like there can't be any question in yalls minds that the love isn't there or the love can't possibly be there. Because that's the main thing...If someone is not physically there with you, the one thing to remind you what you got going on is the LOVE. The butterflies in your stomach that you feel thinking of them. How your palms get sweaty when you hear their voice. Long distance can be stressful but that feeling of being reassured that you have someone is lit. Or has to be lit. I'm single y'all, don't get too amped.

      Communication is key! If y'all don't communicate with one another on a daily basis, you will quickly see how easy it is to forget about something that isn't in your face. Talking on the phone, face timing and texting are major factors.. Good morning text should be rolling in like you still trying fuck for the first time! Speaking on your days in FULL, not the typical "oh my day was good. How was yours?" type shit. Details are needed! Tell them everything! The good shit in your day! The bad things! Tell him about the nigga at your job that loves you so much but you be playing him to the side! That'll make him feel good, niggas love feeling good. Whether y'all knew eachother before the distance or y'all just getting to know eachother y'all should know one another inside and out. Favorite food. Flaws. Dislikes. What makes them happy, like henny. Henny makes me happy. But so doesn't the sound of the waves. See niggas don't know shit like that. Gotta be OPEN and let all that shit be known because without communication y'all just gonna be a long distance relationship on the road to failure.

      To make things work you both need to be 100% ready to go through shit. Thick and thin type of relationship...Because everyone knows it's easy AF to let go of something that isn't right in front of your face. Out of sight out of mind type of shit. So with that being said, you both have to be willing to put egos, pride and all that bullshit on the back burner because with the distance, that shit will not help anything. You will stay stagnant, and no one wants to stay in one place forever. Both parties need to be OK with the distance. If one is against it, the relationship is already in jeopardy. No one likes doing shit they don't want to do in the first place... if making a relationship work MEANS working together while away you need to be 10 toes down willing to make it work. Stop wasting both y'all time if one partner isn't ok with the distance. Because the person NOT ok with it, will be the first one to step outside of the relationship looking for attention else where...

   TRUST!!!!!!!!!!!!! TRUST!!!!!!!! One more time let me say TRUST!!!!!!!! Dog, trust is everything. Not just for people in different states either but you knew that. If there's no trust to begin with, might as well just end it before it starts. There's no point really. You can't pop up at his house ladies, so you gotta be able to TRUST him when he says he's just chilling with his friends. Pst, cus you can text, call, FaceTime, Skype the nigga and if he doesn't want to answer, HE WONT! And boom.... There goes that. When he finally answers and says he was sleep, YOU GOTTA TRUST THAT THE NIGGA WAS SLEEP (which no bitch on earth believes that line anymore.... But hey it's worth a try...) anywho, you can try to deal with someone without trusting them, But it won't last long, and if it does last long, it'll be the same headache over and over again. Assuming, accusing, all that crazy shit. And being physically with someone you can work on it, but distance complicates it... So before you put yourself in a position to be in a long distance relationship, ask yourself... "Am I gonna believe her when she tells me she's going out with her friends? Or am I gonna assume the star running back on the football team just took my bitch to Ruth Chris?????" ... TRUST IS A MUST!!

      SEX. No matter if you're saint or a sinner... Everyone knows sex plays a major factor in relationships. It's not everything but it plays a big role. If you can't go without sex, then maybe a long distance relationship isn't for you. Because you can't drive up the street to go get some long dick, or some wet pussy. You have to become best friends with your right hand (or left hand, for the lefties out there).... And that's real. There's other ways to make the intimacy part of the relationship work. Of course you can't TOUCH your partner. But naked pics should be on deck on a daily basis. Gotta remind him what he has, and what he doesn't wanna lose. FaceTime sex is LITTTT or so I've been told... By a friend..... But you gotta spice shit up so your partner doesn't feel like they need to step out of the relationship because of the lack of contact... I kinda wanted to stay away from the negative part, but this sex topic forces me into the topic of cheating... Is it ever ok to cheat in a long distance relationship??

      Now every relationship is different and I never want anyone to feel as if I'm forcing MY Opinion on them, BUT when it comes to long distance relationships there's ONLY so much you can do sexually for your partner. Of course you should always stay on point and do what you can to keep your MAN YOURS, but always remember niggas need certain things. And putting their Dick in some pussy is one of them. Naked pictures will only hold him over for so long. Still send them though! Still show him why he chose you to be his girl over the next. But I think hall passes should be sent out when dealing with someone long distance. Realistic staying "faithful" is gonna be a hard task for him. Just have faith that he's gonna remain loyal to you... Loyalty is holding you down. Being faithful is not giving your body to someone else. Or that's how I see it. 

        

      I know there are faithful people in this world, so let me step away from the cheating shit and focus on the fact that with a little bit of effort you can see your partner and get it cracking instead of having to step out of the relationship. And during the visit  theres a few things you wanna try to stay away from. STAY AWAY FROM BEING CRAZY AND GOING THROUGH HIS OR HER SHIT!!! That is just a fight waiting to happen. Not saying you're gonna find something completely fucked up, but when you go searching for something YOURE GONNA FIND SOMETHING. And with the "let me go through their shit" mindset, even if you don't find something... the smallest thing you do find, will make you mad and start a fight.. and FIGHTS ARE SOOOOOOOOOO unneccessarry when you two barely see each other in the first place. So stay away from fights.. going through their shit.. Seems simple huh? Probably not, but YOU CAN DO IT.. I HAVE FAITH IN YOU BUDDY!! Visit are lit though because you can remind your partner why they love you so much. Start sucking his dick in the car when he gets you from the airport, now thats LIT.... niggas love getting surprise head in the car... OR IVE BEEN TOLD .... and dudes, give her a nice rub down! Do something sweet, and different for him. Then fuck her like a savage, word to Future! Visits can end really good, or really bad. It all matters HOW you want the trip to go. Main goal is to have as much fun as possible because you never know when  you'll get the chance to be laid up with them again!

      Respect should be the next big thing when it comes to these types of relationships... Respecting their wishes for you to not do certain things, making sure you always keep their best interest in mind. That's for ANY RELATIONSHIP really. But more importantly, respect is NEEDED with the distance. How would you feel if you told your man you didn't want him hanging out with a certain someone, you text him.. And he tells you he's out to lunch with her? Now if y'all were in the same city of course you could POP THE FUCK UP... But being thousands of miles away all you can do is shake your head and realize that your partner doesn't respect simple instructions you gave them...

      Now through the bullshit, the good and the bad you two have to be able to work through hard things because that makes you stronger as a couple. Being apart is harder because you're not physically there to show the hurt or to help your partner do right. But being apart can make them want you even more. Ever heard of the saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder"? Well basically being away from loved ones makes you love them even more. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy. And I'm not saying it'll work out. But what I am saying is that you can make shit happen, and you'll learn from it either way. These are just somethings that you should keep in mind before putting yourself in a position to date someone far away...