Now no relationship is perfect, everyone knows that. The goal is to work towards being a perfect partner to your significant other! But I'm gonna list some things that can easily be the demise of your relationship. Whether big or small, there's certain things you may or may not be able to work through. Some people are too fucked in their head to want to change, or see that they need to change. Or see that they need to compromise! This is just part 1, because theres just so many ways we can fuck shit up, its sad but its the truth... Just work with me. I even asked people around me for input because I haven't been in THAT many relationships that I can list everything so that everyone can feel as if they can either relate ORRRR they can say fuck this I need to change certain things so I won't ruin my relationship. Some times knowing the negatives can help you change it to a positive. I'm just here to help, mama spank is HERE FOR THE CULTURE. Not putting it in any particular order, this is a random list that I put together and broke down in MY lil opinion......
1. Insecurities- In my mind insecurities come from THE INSIDE, from within. A feeling of unease that may be triggered by oneself to be vulnerable. COMING FROM THE INSIDE. I think at times people want to blame their insecurities on others, when I think its all in ones mind. Everyone is insecure in one way or another, which that is normal.. BUT if and when you let them same insecurities ruin something, that is when you take it from being normal to abnormal. DONT BE THAT PERSON!! Continuously doubting yourself will only turn off your partner, if not right then and there, it most deff will in the long run... Be confident in yourself and what you bring to the table!
2. Clinginess- There is nothing wrong with wanting to be around your significant other. But with certain people, it can become overwhelming.. Some people LOVE having their own space, and when someone is constantly invading that, that can slowly but surely ruin a healthy relationship. Because once someone looks deeper than the clinginess, it can show that it is a real problem of dependency. Being dependent on your partner here and there isn't the issue, but when it becomes an everyday all day thing, thats when it becomes a turn off. DONT NO ONE GOT THE TIME TO HAVE YOU UP THEIR ASS 24/7, its not cute! So realize that before its late..
3. Kids- I don't care what anyone says, kids always play a major role in a relationship! They have to. If your partner has a kid or kids and you don't, you may feel as if you are falling in second place, SHIT even third place (the child of course will come before you, and in most cases the other parent may come before you also).. IDK about you but I don't think I'm that mature, sorry not sorry. Thats just ME though.. I know what I can deal with, and I know what I can't or won't deal with. Everyone isn't the same though... And also if you aren't ready to start a family and your partner is it may feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, because the person you love wants something YOU don't. That can make it hard to compromise because babies are not something that you can just CHANGE, or get rid of....
4. Trust issues- Lack of trust is too important... If you can't trust the person you're with then whats the point? This is so important because without trust you literally have nothing. So to start off with no trust or to even lose all trust, it is pointless to try to even go forward. If you aren't willing to atleast try to work with your partner so you can trust them or vice versa, then just end it before y'all are in too deep. Always being paranoid can bring out the worst in anyone, and eventually that can ruin you two...
5. Past relationships- A past relationship can bring a current relationship down. Comparing your ex to your NOW bf/gf can be a horrible thing to do. Its not only insulting, but they may feel as if they aren't good enough for you. Like they have shoes they have to fill, nah... NO ONE WANTS TO FEEL THAT WAY. Everyone knows they're not your first, never know if they're gonna be your last BUT THE LEAST YOU COULD DO IS MAKE THEM FEEL LIKE THEY ARE! If you are constantly finding yourself comparing your current to last, then maybe you aren't ready to move forward! No need to waste your time or their time when all you can really think about is your ex, don't be that evil person that uses someone for a rebound just to go back
6. Cheating- Of course to some this is the most important thing Ive listed so far, because most of the time this is the reason a relationship has ended. CHEATING can be very small, or very big... But no matter how you try to explain it, it still hurts and can make your partner feel, AGAIN as if they aren't good enough. Sometimes cheating can be a completely random thing! And sometimes cheating happens because your partner feels neglected for WHATEVER reason. But there is no excuse for it! Don't ever think I'm saying that. BIG or SMALL, this can be the downfall to something great. A secret date, you sharing secrets with someone that you don't even share with your significant other can be considered CHEATING! Everyone can see cheating differently, its not always just sticking your dick in someone.. or letting someone break your uterus. Letting someone feel superior to your significant other is the first step of cheating...
That should be enough to hold you over for the time being.. I will be back soon enough with a Part 2, because lord knows I missed so many other ones. Just stay tuned, and even before then if you have any input or think I should add something specfic HOLLA AT THE GAWD, Im always ready to listen because like always I know I haven't been through it all so there could be somethings that I'm completely blinded to. Just be patient, Ill be back in a couple days.... Just bear with me... THANKS YALL
