Well, well, well... Look what we have here. A topic that many females will probably run from, hide from, or just embrace the fuck out of. It alll matters where she is in life, and how honest she is with herself. Today I wanna speak on a female picking and choosing to be a RICH MAN'S whore over a REGULAR MAN'S queen... Or vice versa. (Shout out to MAL for this little line. Years ago Joe Budden had an online show, and MAL spoke about this briefly... Ever since then, this topic has ran across my mind ever so often... Made me really think of both sides..) Now before I get too into this post let me explain both titles for those who may not understand what I'm speaking on. Don't take the word whore and just assume it's just so bad. I mean, whores need love too.
First things first, let's explain the simpler one of the two.. "A regular man's queen..." I think that pretty much speaks for itself.. A "regular man" consist of a man with a JOB. A regular ol 9-5 job, nothing too special about his job either! You bitches better not come out the woodworks saying "well athletes have jobs..." Bitch stfu you know what I mean when I say REGULAR. This man isn't rich, or famous. He lives a pretty decent, normal life.... If a man reading this gets offended, I'm sorry, but being regular isn't a bad thing, so don't be hurt by it. Anywho... A regular mans queen consist of a female having a title! Standing by that title! Monogamy! A relationship that consist of just you and him!!!! Nothing more, nothing less! Simple right?
Moving along to the one that I guess is more of a taboo... "A rich man's whore...." I think this is pretty simple to understand, but I can break it down. So...... The man clearly is rich, meaning a prestigious man, living a lavish life that someone with a regular 9-5 probably could never maintain with their salary. Whether he's a CEO of a great business, a top of the line rapper. Or if the nigga is Dez Bryant with a 70 million dollar contract. He's a WEALTHY man.. He doesn't live a "normal" life...So with that being said, we're going to skip right over to the whole whore part that everyone hates. That may consist of you being a side bitch, a mistress, a booty call or a plain ol' bitch he refuses to take serious! Sorry for saying bitch, just a bad habit... I mean you have a title, technically, its just not the "wifey, g/f title......
So now that we've got that out of the way, I want to give some pros and cons for both of them. Let's get things straight, both have good sides and bad sides, that's with any relationship, so please don't shoot the messenger. Im just here to open your eyes to both sides. HEY I COULD BE SAVING SOMEONES LIFE, you better not be on the other end of this screen judging!
Regular Mans Queen PROS:
-Love should always be the most important pro of dealing with someone. Because without love you don't have much. You can have a solid friendship, and even then there needs to be some type of love involved! Love keeps y'all together, Love keeps y'all happy. Love is just so fucking awesome huh?
-Security!! Being secure is a major key in any relationship. You know when you get home at night, the love of your life will be there. You sleep together. You can share your secrets with him. He's a best friend!
-MAKEEEE IT LASTTT FOREVERRRRRRRR EVERRRR *in my best Keith sweat voice* nobody gets in a serious relationship thinking it's gonna end so this is also important. You plan on being with this man if not forever, somewhere close to forever. basically this is an important pro because you two actually have a real future together.
-Trust IS A MUST. When you're someone's QUEEN you both have big shoes to fill. Trusting that he has your best interest at heart, because its a cruel cruel world we live in. Your man is your protector, provider..
-Loyalty, because everyone knows aint shit in this world deeper than loyalty and love... Y'all are going to go through good and bad, and still be able to work through it. You are devoted to this man, and he's devoted to you. Nothing feels better than knowing someone is 100% all yours!
Regular Mans Queen CONS:
-Not saying every "regular" man is broke or even close to broke... But I'm saying he is a lot more cautious of spending his money. Especially if you ask for them Giuseppes you saw a popping IG model wearing, that you know will look TOO GOOD on your feet... You want it, but your man just isn't in the position to throw out money like that. His money isn't spent on materialistic things as often as you may like..
-You just happen to be a queen of a regular cheating ass nigga......AGAIN, I'm not about to sit here and say every man cheats....But what I am gonna say is God forbid he cheats you're gonna be MAD AS FUCK!!! You're gonna drop a thug tear and tell yourself "drake wouldn't treat me like this..." Knowing damn well he would, but he would be able to help you ease the pain with a lil bag to drop at the Galleria. Not saying money gives him the green flag to cheat, BUT it'll make your bitch shut the hell up most of the time.
-You may always think of the "what ifs".... What if you never settled, what if you answered that DM from that Knick's player. You may hang that over his head or, shit even over your own head. Always reminding yourself you could have more, or maybe in a sense better
-MAYBE just MAYBE you aren't ready for the "Queen" title. Maybe you still wanna thot and bop with your hood-rat friends. HEY I DONT JUDGE. Thats fine, that can be a big CON because it'll put you in a position to either fake it till you're really ready, or for you to act out and possibly cheat.
Rich Mans Whore Pros:
-If you aren't looking for love, but more so a fun time, this will most deff be a pro for you. Not every female on this earth is searching for her Prince Charming at this exact moment. Some believe that they need to experience a few things before settling down, and hey who are we to judge? They like to call it the hoe phase, I like to look at it like a science experiment.
-OH it's lit. You get a pair of shoes, you get a pair of shoes, you get a pair of shoes *oprah voice* seriously though, a rich man is able to help more with bills and materialistic things. The money is flowing in a lot quicker than a regular man so he is able to dish it out a lot quicker. Rich men usually don't have as much free time, so being a rich mans whore could really be beneficial for you in a materialistic way...
-Fun and freedom, who doesn't like that? You aren't tied down! This situationship comes with a lot of fun. Trips, shopping sprees, maybe threesomes but you have the freedom to do as you please when he isn't around you. Again you don't have a title and maybe thats what you want, so you can continue to thot and bop as you please.
-Probably getting spoiled & taken care of temporarily, so that gives you an opportunity to save enough money for your future. He can put you in a position to really build yourself a solid foundation, so when he finally decided to drop your ass, you won't be shit out of luck (because he will drop you... and leave you for either the next bitch or for the bitch he really loves) Be smart!
Rich Mans Whore CONS:
-When it comes to being a rich mans "whore" there's really no security in that. Because the way he found you, is the same way he can find the next willing female. So you never really know when he's gonna drop you like a bad habit. Unless you love surprises, well negative surprises this is a major con.
-Temporary loss of dignity and your self esteem may also become damaged knowing he'll most likely never take you serious. Very rarely do you go from being someone's fun toy, to their wife. I mean of course it can HAPPEN, but the chances are very slim. Unless you are a real heartless whore and you trap him. Then you can be in his life for the next 18 years.. I DO NOT CONDONE THIS SHIT SO NONE OF YOU NIGGAS BETTER TRY TO BLAME ME IF YOU GET TRAPPED!!
-Lack of respect! Whether it's from him, or the people around you. Not everyone will be ok with the life you choose to live. Especially if you're a side piece! If you're a booty call, close friends of yours will probably be against it because they would hope you would want more for yourself.
-When you're dealing with a man that you're equal to, you both have some power. In this situation you aren't exactly an equal (sounds horrible, but it's the truth...) you lose a lot of the power you once probably had dealing with another type of man
-Men may not take you serious in the long run. If they see how easy you are for a man that is wealthy, they may not take you serious because they're afraid of what you're capable of. I mean, it makes complete sense. He's looking at you like you will do anything for a come up, so why take you serious. You will be seen as the girl that is fucked and passed along
And that's that. Short and simple. A few pros and cons on both ends. The way I see it, its all about what you consider fun. I don't judge, and some females enjoy not being tied down, and not having to answer to anyone. Can't blame a female for being ok with playing the side. Men and women aren't that different at the end of the day, and its 2016 so we've just gotta just accept that. If she's ok with being with a wealthy man that will never take her serious, then GOTDAMN you should be ok with it too! Eventually she'll learn what she really wants out of life, out of a man. Til then let her live! Like you would let the regular mans queen live....
